1. What is Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
Postpartum Depression after delivery is a negative change in our mental status after the delivery of our baby. Our body is going through too many hormonal changes during the 9 months of pregnancy. Despite, hormonal changes we suffer from many other types of changes such as joints & muscle’s movements and phenomenal change in our body shape.
Human brain is very powerful at some point as it helps us with multitasking, critical thinking, problem solving, thinking of hundreds of task’s performance in some seconds. As all these remarkable changes occur within those 9 months, our brain needs sufficient time to adjust itself according to the environment and those not only uncomfortable but painful process due to this situation and circumstances.
Nowadays this is quite well-known among us, compared to 15 or 20 years ago. On those times depending on the cultures, people were not aware of the existence of such an illness. Still, there are chances some new parents are not aware of this and looking for some information online. Thus, let’s see answers to some common questions asked by women suffering from Postpartum Depression after Delivery.
2. Why Women suffer from Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
- Discomforts affects the brain:
Processing or feeding too many negative and unwanted thoughts in to our brain due to the discomfort of the body.
- My body shape is changed so drastically that I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I hate seeing myself in the mirror for the fact that how fat and ugly I look now.
- My dresses do not fit at all anymore. What should I wear? When will I find time to go for shopping? Who’s going to watch the baby and the list goes on and on…
- I will not be a good wife / partner to my husband anymore. We will not be able to love each other the way we used to before.
- I will not be a good mother to my children OR I will not be worthy of being a good mother to my children.
- My husband will be better off without me along with my children.
- I will end my life because things will not work out the way I had seen it and imagined it.
- The milk flow is not very good.
- You’re staying awake long hours during the nights with the baby. You’re lacking sleep and can’t sleep during day time due to taking care of all household chores.
- You’re not receiving help from anyone if you are living alone in a country where you know only a few people.
- You’re having so much pain and taking medication and you are worried that the medication slows down the milk flow.
- Lack of sleep, fatigue, or hormonal changes:
It could also happen due to lack of sleep because we spend the nights awake with the baby. Fatigue or exhaustion also are factors of depression and of course hormonal changes are one of them. Once the baby is out of mother’s body, it leaves some hormones behind which are also called anti bodies. It takes more time until our body adjusts itself with the new hormones of after the baby is born.
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3. What are the signs or symptoms of Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
- Crying without any reason
- Fighting for no reason
- Loss of interest in relation with your husband
- No desire for any social events
- Either too much sleeping OR not falling asleep at all
- Over eating OR decrease in appetite
- Eating too many sweets
- No bond with the baby OR no interest for the baby
- Feeling as if this is the end of the world for you
- No motivation in living OR life
- Being emotional all the time, even during watching movies it might happen with you that you cry.
- Can’t enjoy activities which used to be enjoyable before
- Forgetting things OR lack of concentration
- Feeling that your brain hurts
- Extremely low self value OR self-esteem
- Thinking of ending your life OR harming the baby
- No desire in self care OR self-love
- Remaining alone and withdrawing yourself from relatives or other social events.
- Not being able to talk with anyone. The moment you want to start talking, you start crying instead.
- Denial of your pregnancy, delivery OR the baby
4. Is Postpartum Depression after Delivery a mortal illness?
Postpartum Depression after Delivery is the status of our mental health. The chances of mortality depend on the severity of the Postpartum Depression after delivery. It varies from one woman to other. In some women it can be mild but in some women it could result in loosing their life, if not taken care right on the moment. That is why it is extremely important to seek for help.
I have come up to a very interesting Video from Camille Mehta on TEDx talk (You tube) to show you. You will listen in her story too, that a woman ended her life, unfortunately. Chances are that there might have been more suicide cases in the past, in my point of view as people were not well aware about this fact. Depending on the culture, it might have probably been considered as a shame or sensitive thing to talk over.
The more science and human knowledge is advanced, the better people are aware. As more and more awareness were raised in this subject. Hence, there is hope as well as cure for this mental state.
5. As a mother what should we do in case we suffer from Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
- As a mother, it is our responsibility to first take care of ourselves and our babies. This is not going to be easy but we have to do it. The life of our children depend on us. Our family depend on us. At that situation we may not seem like loving ourselves but there are others who love us dearly and due to the depression we can’t just notice or feel it.
- For YOU, you may not mean anything BUT DO KNOW that for some family or loved ones YOU are their entire life.
- We should not hesitate to talk to someone. Doesn’t matter if you can’t stop crying. Not a problem of you start yelling or screaming. Don’t worry about what other person will think of you. Just let it out! Start talking!
- Prioritizing our own selves and our babies.
- Reaching for help within the rest of family or community.
- Do not refuse to go see a doctor who will refer you to the specialist.
6. How to get relieved from the inner pain and suffering from Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
Sharing your feelings and emotions with your partner will help. Sometimes talking about it will relieve you. Set down with your partner and share your feelings. By sharing your feelings, you will feel a sense of aliveness from that pain. If you keep it with yourself only, it will hurt and damage you from the inside. The consequence will be no one will know what you are going through and you will be judged falsely by your family members and others who don’t know.
7. What are the effects of Postpartum Depression after Delivery on our self-esteem?
- It has a very huge effect our self-esteem because we keep thinking of not being worthy of the baby, the husband, children or any other negative thoughts.
- We keep thinking that we are not able to do enough to merit the motherhood.
- We are not very confident whether we are right or wrong as the life of a new young human being depend on us.
- Feeling of not having the beautiful slim looking body anymore.
- Comparison of our activeness and ability to do more things before than after delivery.
- Comparing our brain sharpness and multitasking before and after delivery. There might be more depending on the severity of the PPD after delivery and also depending on the women and as well as situation. Every family situation is different and every marriage is different.
8. What are the negative effects of Postpartum Depression after Delivery on the baby or our other children?
- Logically thinking, of course an ill person would not be able to take care of a new young human being as a normal person do. Therefore, we could say it with confidence that it does have effects on the baby. In order to be able to take care of the baby or the family, we should first be ready to take care of our own selves. Again it depend on how sever the PPD is.
- The older children are remarking you and your behaviors. They can right away notice you crying. No matter how much you try to hide from them. That’s why it has a huge negative effect on the older children too.
9. What are the negative effects of Postpartum after Delivery on our Marriage relationship?
- Arguing / fighting for no reason
- Crying without any reason
- Decrease in the desire of being together
- Miss judging each other if not aware of the root cause
- Bad ambiance in the family
- How to fix it:
- Our marriage relationship is always strong and unbreakable. In order to keep it that way we always need to talk things through. We need to communicate. Sometimes seeing a doctor who could refer us to a councillor or Therapist or Psychologist could help and make a huge difference. During that situation, you should both be together to listen to what they say and work it out as a good team and partner.
- It is important that as a couple we be always present and welling to listen to each other’s problems, worrisome, obstacles, willingness to offer help to each other in any difficult situation.
- Being present, mindful, conscious and ready to help and support each other.
10. What are the services you could get during Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
- There are also some resources who provides speech therapy and any other necessary help and support.
- Online (chatting, talking)
- Support groups
- Online learning
- Email Updates
- Hospital support
- Education and help for new parents after birth: Robyn connects aspiring, expecting and new parents to parental wellness providers, resources, and classes on their landmark childbirth education class, parent birth .
11. Who to consult if you are suffering from Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
- Marriage councillor or adviser
12. Whom to ask for support if you have Postpartum Depression after Delivery?
- Community center
- Close family support
- Online (Google search) Websites which offer help or Counseling are:
- 1.800.944.4773 helpline for Canada international PPD
- Amie Quebec
- Postpartum depression